Codependency and Relational Dysfunction
Learn about codependency, the detrimental cycle of dependency on others, and the importance of building healthy relationships based on independence, interdependence, and reliance on the Lord. Discover the signs of codependency and ways to break free from toxic patterns to achieve emotional freedom and healthy connections.
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Take Away While close and loving relationships are important, we cannot confuse those connections with dependency on others. Our dependency must always be on the Lord. Often codependent people confuse loving or being in love with dependency. Any attempt by those close to them to individuate is interpreted as rejection followed by sadness, tears, or even anger. For the codependent person boundaries are seen as uncaring. In a deep desire to reestablishment closeness, they increase the intensity of their devotion.
Terms: Dependence: We begin life totally dependent on others. Independence: As we grow and mature, we become more independent physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. Interdependence: The opposite of codependent. As we grow and mature, we realize that all of nature is interdependent, including human nature Our dependence on the Lord must be such that His life is manifested in us moment by moment, not just once in a great while. The goal of maturity is to move from dependence to independence to interdependence and stay away from codependency!
Definition of Codependency An addiction to people, behaviors, or things; trying to control interior feelings by controlling people, things, and events outside ourselves. The concept of codependency means dependent with, and carries the idea of two people equally dependent on each other. The relationship is maintained by one person controlling, in whatever fashion they may control, and the other seeking to accommodate, please, or pacify the controller.
Definition of Codependency Breaking the codependent cycle, while difficult, is not impossible. One or both parties in the relationship must recognize the codependent patterns and be willing to commit to the arduous task of breaking the vicious cycle. When one person seeks to change the relationship, the other may increase his/her manipulative behavior in order to prevent any changes. If new patterns are going to be established, the one seeking change must be determined not to give in to manipulative tactics. This is the result of an insecure attachment. (See Lesson 3)
LESSON RECAP LESSON RECAP For the codependent person the goal is to control interior feelings, like anxiety, by controlling people, things, and events outside themselves. Example of this would be the parent that again and again rescues the addicted son/daughter from the consequences of the addiction. While on the surface such an act appears loving, the end results are devastating since the addictive person never faces the consequences of his or her behavior, so why change. For the codependent person the rescuing act brings a momentary sense of peace until the cycle is repeated again and again creating that deadly dance that codependency is.
LESSON RECAP What is God saying to me? What have I learned about God s Word (and His heart) and how my attitude must be brought in line? What have I learned about myself? What have I learned about changes I need to make?
