Empowering Relationships and Servanthood with Jesus | Luke 19:1-10 Summary

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You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these. (Mark 12:30-31)

Hero Villain The Karpman Drama Triangle Victim

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Becoming An Empowered Servant Luke 19:1-10 sermon series summary on the back of your sermon notes

Hero Villain Zacchaeus & The Dreaded Drama Triangle Victim

So Zacchaeus ran on ahead and climbed up into a sycamore tree to see Jesus, for he was about to pass that way. (Luke 19:4)

THE DREADED DRAMA TRIANGLE Focus: What don t I want? Strategy: Avoidance Choice: Justifying Feelings: Fear Behavior: Continue old reactions

And when Jesus came to the place, he looked up and said to him, Zacchaeus, hurry and come down, for I must stay at your house today. So he hurried and came down and received Jesus joyfully. (Luke 19:5-6)

And Zacchaeus stood and said to the Lord, Behold, Lord, the half of my goods I give to the poor. And if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I restore it fourfold. (Luke 19:8)

IDENTITY (how you see yourself in the relationship) Empowered Servant Empty Victim

We should be thought of as Christ s servants, who have been put in charge of God s hidden truths. The one thing required of such servants is that they be faithful to their master. (1 Cor 4:1-2, GNB)

FOCUS IN RELATIONSHIP (the motive in your relationship decisions) What good does God want for me & others? What don t I want?

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

When you are feeling trapped in the drama triangle ask: God, what good do you want for me and them in this?

STRATEGY (how you manage your relationship) Responsibility Avoidance

Restore our fortunes, LORD, as streams renew the desert. Those who sow in tears will reap a harvest with shouts of joy. They weep as they go to plant their seed, but they sing as they return with the harvest. (Psalms 126:4-6)

CHOICE WE MAKE Obedience To God s Word Justification Of Self

For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven and do not return there but water the earth, making it bring forth and sprout . . .

so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it. (Isaiah 55:10-11)

FEELINGS / PERSPECTIVE (about the your relationship & its future) Faith, hope & love Fear

That is why I am suffering as I am. Yet I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day. (2 Timothy 1:12)

Behavior Small Steps (Seeds) Continued Old Reactions

plant seeds or water weeds you re choice

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. (Galatians 6:7-8)

EMPOWERED SERVANT Belief: I have everything in Jesus Dynamic: My chance to give & do good Benefits: Nothing else has authority Price: I surrender being in charge Stuck is . . . not what I experience

A servant uses the Lord s resources. So s/he doesn t fear about losing or having enough (for himself or others)

For your three relationships God, what good can I plant in their lives in this season? What good do you want for me and them?

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His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. (2 Peter 1:3)