The Mechanics of Forgiveness

The Mechanics of Forgiveness MIKE MAZZALONGO

WORD STUDY WORD STUDY Old Testament words related to forgiveness: Salach Pardon Kipper Atonement Nasa Taking away

I acknowledged my sin to You, And my iniquity I did not hide; I said, I will confess my transgressions to the Lord ; And You forgave the guilt of my sin. Selah. - - Psalm 32:5 Psalm 32:5

Acts of Mercy/Forgiveness in O.T. Acts of Mercy/Forgiveness in O.T. Spies sparing Rahab Spies sparing Rahab Joshua 2:12-14 David sparing Mephibosheth David sparing Mephibosheth II Sam. 9:3 Esau reconciling with Jacob Esau reconciling with Jacob Gen. 33 Joseph sparing his brothers Joseph sparing his brothers Gen. 50:15-21

GOD GOD FORGIVENESS FORGIVENESS

Be kind to one another, tender- hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. - - Ephesians 4:32 Ephesians 4:32

21 Then Peter came and said to Him, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times? 22Jesus said to him, I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. - - Matthew 18:21 Matthew 18:21- -22 22

How do I Forgive? How do I Forgive?

Forgiveness Forgiveness Definitions Definitions 1. 1.Webster Webster Stop feelings of anger

Forgiveness Forgiveness Definitions Definitions 1. 1. Webster Webster Stop feelings of anger 2. 2.Psychologist Psychologist Release negative feelings

Forgiveness Forgiveness Definitions Definitions 1. 1. Webster Webster Stop feelings of anger 2. 2. Psychologist Psychologist Release negative feelings 3. 3. Bible Bible Let go

And forgive us our sins, For we ourselves also forgive everyone who is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation. - - Luke 11:4 Luke 11:4

Agape is the main motive Agape is the main motive for forgiveness for forgiveness

[Love] does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, - - I Corinthians 13:5 I Corinthians 13:5

What forgiveness is not What forgiveness is not Condoning offensive behavior Condoning offensive behavior

What forgiveness is not What forgiveness is not Condoning offensive behavior Pretending that the offense Pretending that the offense never happened never happened

What forgiveness is not What forgiveness is not Condoning offensive behavior Pretending that the offense never happened Letting others take advantage Letting others take advantage of you of you

What forgiveness is not What forgiveness is not Condoning offensive behavior Pretending that the offense never happened Letting others take advantage of you Pardoning with no basis Pardoning with no basis

13 He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. 14 How blessed is the man who fears always, But he who hardens his heart will fall into calamity. - - Proverbs 28:13 Proverbs 28:13- -14 14

Cease from anger and forsake wrath; Do not fret; it leads only to evildoing. - - Psalm Psalm 37:8 37:8

What forgiveness is not What forgiveness is not Condoning offensive behavior Pretending that the offense never happened Letting others take advantage of you Pardoning with no basis Forgiving every perceived Forgiving every perceived offense and slight offense and slight

Do not be eager in your heart to be angry, For anger resides in the bosom of fools. - - Ecclesiastes 7:9 Ecclesiastes 7:9

The Mechanics The Mechanics of Forgiveness of Forgiveness

The Mechanics of Forgiveness The Mechanics of Forgiveness 1. 1.Define the offense Define the offense clearly and truthfully clearly and truthfully

DAVID & BATHSHEBA DAVID & BATHSHEBA 1 Then the Lord sent Nathan to David. And he came to him and said, There were two men in one city, the one rich and the other poor. 2 The rich man had a great many flocks and herds. - - II Samuel 12:1 II Samuel 12:1- -2 2

But the poor man had nothing except one little ewe lamb Which he bought and nourished; And it grew up together with him and his children. It would eat of his bread and drink of his cup and lie in his bosom, And was like a daughter to him. - - II Samuel 12:3 II Samuel 12:3

Now a traveler came to the rich man, And he was unwilling to take from his own flock or his own herd, To prepare for the wayfarer who had come to him; Rather he took the poor man s ewe lamb and prepared it for the man who had come to him. - - II Samuel 12:4 II Samuel 12:4

5Then Davids anger burned greatly against the man, and he said to Nathan, As the Lord lives, surely the man who has done this deserves to die. 6 He must make restitution for the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing and had no compassion. - - II Samuel 12:5 II Samuel 12:5- -6 6

Nathan then said to David, You are the man! - - II Samuel 12:7 II Samuel 12:7

Davids Hard Conscience Permitted Him to: David s Hard Conscience Permitted Him to: Take another man s wife Take another man s wife

Davids Hard Conscience Permitted Him to: David s Hard Conscience Permitted Him to: Take another man s wife Plot a murder Plot a murder

Davids Hard Conscience Permitted Him to: David s Hard Conscience Permitted Him to: Take another man s wife Plot a murder Lie to the nation Lie to the nation

One One- -size forgiveness rarely brings closure. size- -fits fits- -all all

Until you find the true source Until you find the true source of the offense and turn it off of the offense and turn it off (through forgiveness), (through forgiveness), it will continue to leak negative it will continue to leak negative emotions. emotions.

The Mechanics of Forgiveness The Mechanics of Forgiveness 1. Define the offense clearly and truthfully 2. 2. Let go Let go really! really!

How to Let Go How to Let Go A. A. Understand that forgiveness is Understand that forgiveness is a command, not a suggestion. a command, not a suggestion.

How to Let Go How to Let Go B. B. Stop the mental churning Stop the mental churning [Love] does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, - I Corinthians 13:5

but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 3:13b-14

The Mechanics of Forgiveness The Mechanics of Forgiveness 1. Define the offense clearly and truthfully 2. Let go really! 3. 3.Cancel Cancel the debt the debt

10,000 Talents 10,000 Talents = $7 Billion $7 Billion

Forgiveness requires cancelling Forgiveness requires cancelling the debt (apology, justice, the debt (apology, justice, compensation) we are owed. compensation) we are owed.

The healing doesnt start The healing doesn t start until the debt is paid. until the debt is paid.

Review Review Forgiveness requires: Forgiveness requires: 1. Articulation of the offense 2. Letting go 3. Cancelling of the debt

Is your debt to God paid off? paid off?