Re-Igniting Desire in Marriage: Wisdom from Song of Solomon and Genesis
Explore the themes of companionship, exclusiveness, and shameless intimacy in marriage through the lens of Song of Solomon and Genesis. Understand the evolution of marital dynamics from paradise to conflict and discover how to invite intimacy and reignite passion in your relationship.
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Song of Solomon 6 & 7 Awaking & Re-Awakening Desire
BEFORE the Fall Gen 2:15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it. Reality of a luxurious garden Gen 2:18 The LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." Importance of helpful companionship
BEFORE the Fall Gen 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Exclusive nature of marriage Gen 2:25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Enjoyable shameless intimacy
AFTER the Fall Shameless intimacy falls into fear & covering Gen 3:10 I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid. Exclusive marriage falls under outside evil Gen 3:13 The LORD God said to the woman, What is this that you have done? The woman said, The serpent deceived me, and I ate.
AFTER the Fall Companionship falls into selfish conflict Gen 3:16 To the woman He said: "Your desirewill be for your husband (inclination to control), but he will ruleover you (inclination to dominate)." Garden luxury falls away intowilderness labor Gen 3:23 The LORD God sent him out from the garden of Eden to work the ground from which he was taken.
Song of Solomon Wisdom s Return to Marriage Paradise Garden Theme - Song 4:16; 5:1; 6:2,11 Companionship - Song 5:16 Exclusiveness - Song 2:10,13; 3:1-4; 4:12; 6:9 Shameless Intimacy - Song 4; 6; 7 Wife s Power to Ignite/Re-ignite Passion SHE often speaks, invites, appreciates.
Learn/Re-learn how to INVITE Intimacy Song 7:11 (She) Come, my beloved Q - Wife, when was the last time YOU asked your husband to make love to you? Please understand his internal battle 7:10 - His desire is toward (you). 4:8-He harbors fears of rejection & inadequacy. 4:9 - His heart can be captivated (or crushed) with one look of your eyes.
As time goes on, simply being available is not sufficient for maintaining, let alone enhancing sexual desire. Simply being available communicates a duty rather than delighted mindset. Intimacy is a place for the wife to say, (8:2) I would lead you , and then do it! Song of Solomon is not encouraging lies or faking, but a willingness to (2:7; 3:5; 8:4) stir up and awaken love by INVITING it.
Learn/Re-learn how to plan Intimate PLACES Song 7:11 (She) Come, my beloved, let us go forth to the field to the villages. Q - Wife, have you let your husband know you are available to him in locations other than the bedroom? Q - Wife, when was the last time YOU let your husband know you would enjoy a romantic getaway (En Gedi 1:14) with just him?
Making Your Own En Gedi Places - bedrooms, homes, getaway places where a wife and husband can be private, relaxed, make memories and build healthy romantic relationships. - may require budgeting time and money. - allows for intimate conversations and activities.
Learn/Re-learn the power of SPONTANEITY Song 7:12 (She) Let us get up early to the vineyards There I will give you my loves. Q - Wife, when was the last time you went to bed early for the specific purpose of stirring and awakening your husband s desire early? Q - Wife, are you aware of when your husband might be most eager to be stirred and awakened by your words and touches?
Learn/Re-learn the power of VARIETY Song 7:12,13 (She) There I will give you my loves. At our gates are all manner of pleasant fruits, new and old, which I have laid up for you, my beloved. Q - Wife, are you willing to encourage and initiate new erotic pleasures? Q - Wife, when was the last time you made special preparations for (laid up for him) sex?
Freedom Questions in a Christian Marriage 1. Receive - Can I receive this act or activity as a gift from God that is not forbidden by His Word or my conscience? 2. Reject - Is this something that neither God s Word nor my conscience can receive? 3. Redeem - Is this something that can be used in a godly way, is an area of biblical freedom (Rom 14; I Cor 8), and that my conscience allows as a gift from God when done rightly? Gal 5:13,14
Learn/Re-learn the power of APPRECIATION Song 5:10 (She) My beloved is ... (11) His head & hair. (12) His eyes. (13) His cheeks & lips. (14) His hands & body. (15) His legs & face. (16) His mouth & friendship Q - Wife, do you spend any time thinking about your husband s body? Could you describehim? Q - Wife, when was the last time you told your husband the body parts you enjoy? And why?
If you want to Awaken or Re-Awaken Desire in your Marriage Learn/Re-learn how to INVITE Intimacy Learn/Re-learn how to plan Intimate PLACES Learn/Re-learn the power of SPONTANEITY Learn/Re-learn the power of VARIETY Learn/Re-learn the power of APPRECIATION Learn/Re-Learn the power of Your FEMININITY Intimacy is a place for you, the wife to say, (8:2) I would lead you , and then do it!
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